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Identity is sacred.
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28th Annual Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards Judge’s Commentary

This touching memoir brought much to light about the adoptee’s journey. Sharing her challenging attempts to find her birth mother (and eventually birth father), the author did well to illustrate the obstacles. Providing photographs put a real face up front for the characters in this memoir. The cover design was well done with photography and the back-cover information was just enough to give a potential reader information about this book.

The introduction served well to set the scene for this book. As an advocate, the author was able to demonstrate how having the records of health would be beneficial for an adoptee. The search would also serve to help people who are considering their own search. The steps that Parsons took would be steps that others could take to get answers.

It was interesting to learn how Parsons eventually connected with her biological relatives and was able to have reunions with them. The helpful resources at the end of the book offered great opportunities for others who are searching to know where to go for help.

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My name is Bonnie Parsons. I was born in Montreal, Quebec, Canada. When I was thirteen, my family moved to Amherst, Massachusetts where I attended high school and university. My husband, Paul, and I live in Clarence, New York. Previously, we lived in the Parkside neighborhood of North Buffalo for over thirty years where we raised our two children. We have five grandchildren. 


I received my undergraduate degree from the University of Massachusetts, Amherst. I have a Masters degree from the University of Rhode Island and a Certificate of Advanced Study in Educational Leadership from Buffalo State College. 

Bonnie Parsons

Quotes from my blog:

Was My Curiosity Wrong?

“Why did I want to know who gave birth to me? My mom and I shared a strong mother-daughter bond. I never wanted to hurt her. I never wanted her to think she wasn't my one and only mom.”

Original Birth Certificate, Please

“Once I knew my birthmother’s name, I decided to ask for my original birth certificate. It was a tricky process, but thankfully, I succeeded. What a joy to hold that simple document, a lawful and legitimate record of my illegitimate birth!”

Completing the Triangle

“It became clear that my birthmother’s only option for me was adoption. There were no alternatives. I believe that without support from her family and community, she did her best. Eventually, I understood her decision.”



This card honors my two mothers. My mom and my birthmother both died from breast cancer. Each of us is unique and special in our own way. I hope to raise awareness of the value of identity, as well as the need to support breast cancer research.